To tell or not to tell?

Over the days following my diagnosis I had to make the decision of what to share when to share it. Each person is different. I’ve known some women that were very private and didn’t want anyone to know what was going on. And I’ve known women that were willing to share all the details with everyone without hesitation. For me, I was somewhere in the middle. I shared the basics with my immediate family as soon as I knew. There wasn’t much chance I would be able to hide my emotions, and I didn’t see a need to hide it from those closest to me. I decided to accept the help and the emotional support I so desperately needed in those early days (and still need often, even now). I shared some details with my boss pretty early as well, mostly because I needed him to know why I would be missing so much work for appointments, scans, surgery, and treatments. Once I had more details and a firmer grasp on what was happening, I shared some information more publicly. Again, this is a very personal decision and you will need to choose what feels right to you. Everything is new and you are in a state of shock when you first hear the news – at least I was. I couldn’t answer anyone’s questions at first, I wasn’t sure I could handle my phone blowing up, and I needed time to absorb everything. Over time, your comfort level may change. For example, it has taken me two and a half years to begin this blog even though it has always been a thought in the back of my mind. I want to use what I have learned to help others going through similar challenges, but it has taken me quite some time to get here. Even now, I know there are things I don’t know, and there are challenges I have yet to face, but I am finally comfortable enough to begin sharing my story. More will come in time, but this is a huge step in that direction.

Whatever you decide, and however much you choose to share, just know there are people that care. People that want to help, if given the opportunity. Friends, family, coworkers, your future support system is out there, they just need to know that you need them!